Heart Talk

Love is one of the questions we have always attempted to answer in more than one way. This only shows that it is quite impossible to grasp and comprehend the totality of it being loved. We try and find out by getting hurt. We try and find out. When you enter a relationship, when you commit yourself, you must always bear in mind that you are sharing apart of yourself to a stranger who by mere chance or destined fate you happened to like and "love".

In doing so, you take a risk. He/she is definitely not your reincarnation. This is why you should not expect him or her to be like you, to posses the same thoughts, to own the same emotions. You love him/her because he/she is he/she and not because he/she is you. This is so, you must learn to accept him/her totality as a person. Growth is brought up by your indifference which in one or another cultivates the relationship. Its is also important to remember that trust is a vital element of any relationship, unconditional trust no ifs no buts.

When you love, honestly love. Then you must be willing to sacrifice. There are times when hurts go deep, when the pain is almost unbearable, when you are about to give up. But loving is not giving up so easily. It is being there when all have gone, when there is very little strength left, when its is too much to stand. Loving is trusting. Loving is letting be.

There is really no difference between the as-a-matter-of-fact way. You might be in different plane of understanding, which may be a cause of misinterpretation. If he/she is honest with you then don't kill yourself by saying he/she not. How do you know? His/her past experience is not enough to doubt him/her. If he/she can offer his/her as-a matter-of-fact way of loving to the best, then accept it. And if you can love him or her the romantic way in return, then do so.

Please do not measure the exchange. Just be honest with each other and have an open channel of communication constantly where there is a free sharing of ideas. No if no buts Stash. Nobody promised you a rose of garden. Get the best of life. Love and get hurt Get hurt and learn And Love again. It is a cycle of being. Experience the cycle. I feel like I'm in a circle. I hope you make sense of whatever thoughts I have with you. You see I'm in love too. I believe in the sincerity of your feelings. I believe in your sincerity as a person. Like any of us, you are capable of loving and worthy of loved in return. You are to the Best!

From the book "Letter to my son"

It is a mystery why we fall in Love.
Its is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is mystery why some love fails. You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of the experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interest and attractions and commonalties that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.

Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then move on. When this happens to young people, they to often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather accepting the gift for what it was, then moving on.

They want answer where are no answers. They want to know what is wring in them that makes the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away start a new life together, their love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious was; they live in sea of misery. You need to know this about love, and to accept it.

You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the persons heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to asses blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes in to your life. Fell way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give to the world around you in anyway you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open it will come again.

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about.
Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves
and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their
needs and desires. Thinking your ideal partner will help you recognize
her when you meet her.

The second secret: The power of RESPECT.

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them.
The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain
self-respect ask yourself, What do I respect about myself?
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask
yourself, What do I expect about myself?

The third secret: The power of GIVING.

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it!
The more love you give, the more you will receive.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person
will be able to give you, but rather what will you be able to give
them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship
is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can
take.

The fourth secret: The power of FRIENDSHIP.

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each others eyes,
but rather looking outward together in the same
direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are,
not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which loves
seeds grow. If you want to bring love into relationship, you must
first bring relationship.

The fifth secret: The power of TOUCH.

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking
down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our
physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive
to love.

The sixth secret: The power of LETTING GO.

If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you its yours,
if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need
their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to
forgive and let go of past hurts, and grievances.
Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.
Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me -
today is the beginning of a new life.

The seventh secret: The power of COMMUNICATION.

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes.
To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you
love know that you love them and appreciate them.
Never be afraid to say those three main words: "I Love You"
Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave
someone you love with a loving word it could be the last time
you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone
calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you
say and...why are you waiting?

The eighth secret: The power of COMMITMENT.

If you want to love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and
that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving
relationship, you must committed to loving relationships. When
you are committed to someone or something, quitting never an
option. Commitment distinguishes fragile relationships from a
strong one.

The ninth secret: The power of PASSION.

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not
come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep
commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can
be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate.
Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and
happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with
passion.

The tenth secret: The power of TRUST.

Trust is essential in all loving relationships.
Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful
and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated.
You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them
completely. Acts as if your relationship with the person you
love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person
is right for you is to ask yourself, Do I trust them completely and
unreservedly? If the answer is think carefully before making
a commitment.

being honest with yourself at all times
being honest with the other person at all times
telling, listening, respecting the truth
and never pretending
Love is the source of reality

Love is
an understanding that is so complete that
you feel as if you are a part of the other person
accepting the other person just the way they are
and not trying to change them to be something else
Love is the source of unity

Love is
the freedom to pursue your own desires
while sharing your experiences with the other person
the growth of one individual alongside of
and together with the growth of another individual
Love is the source of success

Love is
the excitement of planning things together
the excitement of doing things together
Love is the source of the future

Love is
the fury of the storm
the calm of the rainbow
Love is the source of passion

Love is
giving and taking in a daily situation
being patient with each other's needs and desires
Love is the source of sharing

Love is
knowing that the other person
will always be with you regardless of what happens
missing the other person when they are away
but remaining near in heart at all times
Love is the source of security

Love is source of life